The Burnout is Real

Who isn't struggling at this point?

Layer on the isolation, uncertainty, and sadness that are the de-facto the definition of parenting in 2020 and 2021it's no wonder we're feeling this way. Whether it's powering through virtual learning while maintaining productivity in your full-time job. Or, dealing with new nightmares (coronavirus dreams are very very real in this house). Or, dealing will illness. It seems like there is little relief in sight even with the good news about vaccine distribution.

The always-shifting demands of parenting in a pandemic are leading to stress, anxiety, and depression, not to mention economic hardship for those forced to leave their jobs to care for kids. Many parents have been left to fend for themselves, with their reserves of strength, energy, positivity — and sleep — long tapped out.

It's not all in your head. Data driven insights back what we're all feeling.

Parents are caring for kids full time while trying to do their jobs. It’s taking its toll.

As they try to manage their children’s education and questions about when they will see loved ones again, many parents are also trying to work, something that hasn’t gotten any easier since the pandemic began. In fact, research shows Americans have actually worked more hours per week since March.

What can we do about it?

1. Acknowledge your feelings.

2. Connect

3. Validate

4. Repeat after me: “You’re not working from home, you’re home working through a pandemic"

My story (a beginning)

In my case, I powered through for 1 year ... exactly. In February, I took a breath and acknowledged my reality: a job at a company I loved, feeling like I was not a good enough (wife, mother, colleague), a supportive husband whose own work was heating up, and a job transition that I optimized to the best of my ability, but left me wanting. My reality: I decided to take a break. I thought I would feel shame by opting out of the workforce, but it is what I had to do for the good of my mental health and my family.

I find my days are busy: managing virtual school, making lunches and snacks, ensuring virtual extracurriculars aren't missed, special house projects, and more. I'm most thankful and excited for the space I know have to think and strategize about my next corporate chapter. I'm taking the time to research companies, set up coffees with old friends and colleagues and truly trying to find where is the next personal and professional growth opportunity.

Until then, I've started this blog. I've opened up an Etsy shop (what?!? knitting is cathartic). And, I feel free. I see the women out there struggling. I don't have the answers now... but you'll be on my journey through this blog.